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bluidkiti · 03-18-2021, 07:20 AM

Today's Scripture: The fear of human opinion disables; trusting in GOD protects you from that. (Proverbs 29:25, MSG)

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Some people always have problems, always want your help, and are always in crisis mode. They expect you to come running, to cheer them up, and keep them encouraged. And if you don’t, they try to make you feel guilty. You love them, but you should put up a boundary to keep them from continually dumping their problems on you. You are not responsible for their happiness or to keep them fixed.

You have to protect your peace. You have a limited supply of emotional energy each day. If you’re taking on their problems, you’re not going to have the emotional energy for what you need. You’re not their savior; they already have a Savior. A lot of times instead of helping them, we’re simply enabling their dysfunction. If they get upset when you put up a boundary, they are controllers and manipulators. They like you for what you can do for them, not for who you are. You don’t need “friends” like that. Make a change, and God will give you true friends.

A Prayer for Today: “Father, thank You that You have called me to love and help others, but not to try to fix them or make them happy. Help me to protect my own emotional energy. I declare that I am not responsible for other people’s happiness. In Jesus’ Name, Amen”

Joel Osteen

03-18-2021, 07:20 AM	#1
bluidkiti Administrator Join Date: Aug 2013 Posts: 74,218	Controllers Today's Scripture: The fear of human opinion disables; trusting in GOD protects you from that. (Proverbs 29:25, MSG) Controllers Some people always have problems, always want your help, and are always in crisis mode. They expect you to come running, to cheer them up, and keep them encouraged. And if you don’t, they try to make you feel guilty. You love them, but you should put up a boundary to keep them from continually dumping their problems on you. You are not responsible for their happiness or to keep them fixed. You have to protect your peace. You have a limited supply of emotional energy each day. If you’re taking on their problems, you’re not going to have the emotional energy for what you need. You’re not their savior; they already have a Savior. A lot of times instead of helping them, we’re simply enabling their dysfunction. If they get upset when you put up a boundary, they are controllers and manipulators. They like you for what you can do for them, not for who you are. You don’t need “friends” like that. Make a change, and God will give you true friends. A Prayer for Today: “Father, thank You that You have called me to love and help others, but not to try to fix them or make them happy. Help me to protect my own emotional energy. I declare that I am not responsible for other people’s happiness. In Jesus’ Name, Amen” Joel Osteen __________________ "No matter what you have done up to this moment, you get 24 brand-new hours to spend every single day." --Brian Tracy AA gives us an opportunity to recreate ourselves, with God's help, one day at a time. --Rufus K. When you get to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on. --Franklin D. Roosevelt We stay sober and clean together - one day at a time! God says that each of us is worth loving.

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