Tip-Offs

[MajestyJo]

Saturday, January 4, 2014

You are reading from the book Today's Gift

A tip-off to an abusive family system is a situation in which nobody ever apologizes.
— Karen Shaud

When we get a tip-off, we can open the door to a whole new way of looking at the world. The tip-off about apologies can help us learn to have a healthier family. It is hard to apologize, but with practice, it will get easier. We are learning that we can make mistakes, and admit them, and that other people will accept our apologies. In the same way, we are learning we can accept others' apologies. Apologies are sometimes hard to make. It helps to keep in mind that we make them as much for ourselves and our own growth as for the person we apologize to. We are not worthless just because we make mistakes, but we increase our value to ourselves and others by being able to recognize them and apologize.

Was so relieved when I heard the saying, "Just because I made a mistake doesn't mean I am one."

An amend is not saying, "I am sorry." It is looking at our wrongs and changing our attitude, behaviours, habits, and actions and not doing them again, to the best of our ability in today.