Checklist for Evaluating Maturity

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The difficulties of coping with alcoholism in another are
much more effectively met when we ourselves reflect
attitudes of mature adults.

A mature adult is one who:

* Does not automatically resent criticism, realizing
that it may contain a suggestion for self-improvement.

* Knows that self-pity is futile and childish--a way of
placing the blame for disappointments on others.

* Does not readily experience a loss of temper or "fly
off the handle" about trifles.

* Keeps calm in emergencies and deals with them in
a logical, reasonable fashion.

* Accepts responsibility without blaming others when
things go wrong.

* Accepts reasonable delays without impatience,
realizing that some adjustment for the convenience
of others is necessary.

* Is a good loser, accepting defeat and disappointment
without complaint or ill temper.

* Does not worry unduly about things that can't be
changed.

* Doesn't boast or "show off" when praised or complimented,
accepts it with grace, appreciation and without false
modesty.

* Applauds others' achievements with sincere goodwill.

* Rejoices in the good fortune and success of others
having outgrown petty jealousy and envy.

* Listens courteously to the opinions of others even
when they hold opposing views; does not enter into
hostile argument.

* Doesn't find fault with "every little thing" or criticize
people who do things differently.

* Makes reasonable plans and tries to carry them out
in orderly fashion; does not do things on the spur of
the moment without due consideration.


Shows spiritual maturity by:

* Accepting the existence of a Higher Power and
recognizing the importance of this Power in life.

* Realizing each person is part of mankind as a
whole and has much to give; that each of us has
an obligation to share with others the gifts that
have been bestowed upon us.

* Obeying the spirit of the Golden Rule: " Do unto
others as you would have them do unto you."


From Al-Anon Booklet "Alcoholism The Family Disease" (p-4)