Just saying no to ourselves never works for any of us who are in recovery because the moment we do, all of us enter into conflict with ourselves and then there can be no peace within us until we are able to settle our conflict. We can spend our whole life doing this to ourselves, and being in conflict with ourselves but instead of doing this, what all of us can do instead is what recovery suggests that we do that works. This doesn't cause any of us to be in conflict with ourselves and can actually bring all of us into agreement with ourselves. Which will bring out the real truths that are in all of us, not the ones that we all think that we know. These real truths are the ones that are going to save all of us from having happen, what's going to happen to all of us, without us being able to know what these truths are. We all have them and they're part of all of us, we all come with them and all of us in recovery can use them to save ourselves from the inevitable. Just saying no will never be able to do this for any of us, and when we all try to do just that, it's like all of us signing our own death warrant when we all do this.